This it's something that I really wanna talk about. It's a really important message for anyone who's currently struggling with maintaining an amazing relationship with their partner and building a business. I promise that if you read it right to to the end, you will have a new found surge of passion for both your business and personal relationship.
So grab yourself a green tea or glass of prosecco (It's 5 o'clock somewhere, Heck it's after Noon somewhere!) because it’s about time that I got VERY REAL with you.
I love hearing from my WolfPack. You guys are just awesome. It makes my day hearing how trainings, courses and masterclasses I’ve done have helped change your relationship for the better and make your business improve.
But, what crushes me is hearing some of the stories you shared...
Lena explained that she had been in her business for over a year with her boyfriend David and they were sofa surfing as they had sold their house to finance their clothing company but due to some poor runs of garments the money just wasn't coming in.
Lilly and Stromi got in touch and said although their business was really profitable (like really profitable) they didn't have anytime together. They hadn't had a day off together in 9months and hadn't been on holiday for 3 years. That's a not a life is it?
I had an email from Ronnie, who explained he was suffering major burnout from his business and was falling out of love with it as it took time away from him and his wife Sarah having time with their kids.
Before I go any further: lets get one thing clear.
Every single one of you has the power to achieve greatness. Being happy is not just reserved for a select few. Every single person in this world has the opportunity to have it all. It is available to anyone who DECIDES this is what they want and then takes inspired action to get there with the mindset of someone who believes that they can.
The stories I read have prompted me to share my journey with you because I want you to know that when I started this coaching business, I was probably like many of you are now:
Fed up of being stuck in the circle of 'go to work to make money to pay for a house you're not in cos you're at work all day'
Sick of fighting with my Husband
Not sure where to turn to or how I could make things better
I was spending A LOT of time online, in Facebook groups, on Instagram, on Snapchat (give me a filter any day of the week), on Facebook Live. I felt like I was constantly trying to shout above the noise and feared if I stopped marketing myself, I’d have no clients at all.
The business we were running together which we'd hoped would provide us with freedom was in fact giving us less. Less free time together, less money and less love for each other and our business.
I can remember the very first day we started working together, a Monday, how most weeks start. I showed John how to answer the emails that came in, bag up products to sell, how to take payments etc. It was lovely. That first month flew by and then the first 'payday' came. We no longer had a full-time wage from one of us coming in. But it was fine so we put one food shop on a credit card, some petrol on it a month later. Soon our outgoings were really exceeding our income. As it often does when you don't have money, we started having fights. We started working more, doing anything we possibly could to bring in some money.
I felt worthless. I had feelings of shame and inadequacy that wouldn't shift. I felt trapped in both my marriage and businesses. All these feelings I would have to shake off in order to step into the role of a powerful entrepreneur.
Apparently I am not very good at listening to messages the first time around. Stubborn. The first time I knew something had to change was a Wednesday evening. I got home from teaching to come and do more work and saw John happily playing his computer games without a care in the world. I flipped! I won't go into the depths of the argument but there was a lot of swearing.... use your imagination. I slept on the sofa that night, packed a bag the next morning, told him not to come to the office and not be there when I got home. The second was about 6months later. We had no money. I'm not talking we didn't have enough to buy a pizza kind of money. We had nothing. There was a slice of bread i
n our house to eat, only a few lightbulbs working as we couldn't afford new ones and even though it was December we had no heating as it had broken and we couldn't afford to get it fixed. Both times - pretty bad. Alright pretty bad is sugarcoating it. It was shit. You know that line in friends where Rachael Says 'But today, it's like there's rock bottom, then fifty feet of crap, then me.' I was further down than that.
It was then, that second time, I was sat under a million blankets trying to keep warn, I knew something, anything had to change. We needed to get out of this rut, this never ending horror and fear. I sat up for hours that night googling away trying to find some miracle cure that would help, something that would make everything better and we could move on with our lives. Alas, no magic genie appeared from my lamp. This was going to take some work.
I sat down with John to talk about what our problems were, where things had gone wrong, what we could do to improve them, put a budget in place, start planning for our future. The weight that lifted from my shoulders was amazing. I felt light and free again. I felt I could do anything.
That was over 2 years ago now and EVERYTHING has changed. All our business are back on track. We've had record breaking months in all our business. We've achieved goals quicker than I could have thought possible. We spend more time together, both doing business stuff but also dating again (Handy that a new Turkish restaurant opened up walking distance from our house!). I paid off my business loan two weeks ago, and 4 months early! woohoo!
My point is, EVERYONE has the power to change their circumstances.
If you are losing hope with your business and your relationship, know that things can change. Things can get better but it will not happen magically overnight. You will need to do work. You will need to commit time to making your business and your relationship better.
If you were waiting for a sign.....this is it.
Yes, it will require you to do things differently to how you previously have done things.
Yes it may require to address those limiting beliefs you’ve been trying to suppress.
Yes it may require you to start thinking and acting like a CEO rather than burned out employees.
BUT, on the other side of these uncomfortable scary steps, is a business and a life that is more than you can ever imagine.
It sounds super cheesy but I totally love my live at the moment.
I’m so happy and grateful that you are reading this because it means you know there is something more out there for you and I’d love this opportunity to help you map out your six figure success strategy.
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